When is your baby due? How many weeks are you?
My baby is due October 29th, 2014 and I am 34 weeks.
What do you love about being pregnant?
I love watching my belly move with all the kicks, rolls, and butt bumps that our little boy is practicing in the womb. It's also quite a perk to get such chivalrous treatment from strangers, such as opening doors, offering seats, and just a friendly smile. I joke that this special treatment must be part of pregnancy since the child will take all the attention from this point forward!
What makes you feel best right now?
I have been very lucky to have such an easy pregnancy: I haven't experienced any morning sickness, my vitals are in great shape, and I'm generally comfortable. What makes me feel best would have to be a nice foot massage from my partner. Those are ALWAYS appreciated!!!
What are some of your struggles?
I am struggling with WHO I will be as a parent. Maybe "struggle" isn't the correct word, but I constantly try to imagine what I will be like. Admittedly, I struggle with doing the right thing for my child as he grows older. I can't help but think of all the things my parents did that I don't agree with, and I want to avoid turing into that. Don't get me wrong. My parents did a lot of things right, but those points aren't at the forefront of my thought process these days.
What kind of birth do you envision for you and your baby? What are you doing to prepare for it?
The birth I envision for me and my baby is vague because it is best for my personality to let things happen as they happen and not try to expect too much. I am going the more "traditional" route and using a hospital versus a home birth, etc. I was honored to witness my best friend give birth to her son three years ago and feel that experience has helped prepare me for what a hospital birth will look / feel like. My partner and I are taking several classes on child birth to help prepare for the big day, and I find knowledge is power so I read a LOT about different types of labor so I can feel ready for what may come.
Best advice you've read/heard?
Be active! I think the best advice is to use this time to truly focus on your body and not feel guilty about any of it. Speaking of feeling guilty, your recent blog on pregnancy and eating disorders is very much on my mind. I think this is the only time in my life where I don't feel bad about what / how much I eat and that is a HUGE relief! I think the best advice I've heard about childbirth is to work WITH your body and not against it.
How did you know you were pregnant or how did you find out?
Oh boy! This was a huge surprise to say the least. My partner and I were not trying to conceive, but we also knew what we were getting in to. Somewhat. Kellyn (my partner) is in a 2-year remission for testicular cancer and was always told by doctors and specialists that conceiving was possible, but it would take a lot of work. That being said, I had been on birth control for over 10 years and never had any "scares" or "close calls" in all that time. Based on those facts we assumed that pregnancy would be something we'd really have to focus on and work toward. Kellyn and I had every intention to have kids SOME day, but we didn't know WHICH day :) I had to stop taking BC while I was between insurance providers, and, low and behold, I was off pills for all of two weeks and I became pregnant! I had no idea I was pregnant since I didn't have any of the usual symptoms. No morning sickness, no missed period (I had a false period right on schedule), and didn't feel strange. Except for one thing: I was constantly dizzy and nothing would relieve that feeling. On my 31st birthday I decided to take a pregnancy test since we had big plans for a celebration so I wanted to ensure I wasn't pregnant -- assuming that was the furthest possibility! The first test came out positive... and the second... and the third! Much to my disbelief, I got the best- yet most unexpected - birthday gift ever!