Each week, we'll be sharing real birth stories told to us by women across the United States and the world. We hope that these stories inspire you...and encourage you to remember that there is no "right way" to give birth. Our stories are as diverse as we are...and here at cord, we want to celebrate that!
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Today, Melinda is sharing her third birth with us. She choose to give birth at the hospital (after having a home birth with her second)...and we found her intuition and story to be incredibly inspirational!
When was your baby due? : 6/5/2015
When was your baby born?: 6/13/2015
Where did you decide to have your baby? Why did you choose this delivery location?
My first birth was at a military hospital where I was able to have an unmedicated intervention free birth with a cnm, my second was in our home with a midwife and our third was again in a hospital with an ob. I was so sure that I would have another home birth and that was my plan. I had gone to my first initial appointment with my midwife, and then my second appointment and I couldn't help but have this nagging feeling that a home birth might not be right this time. I interviewed other midwives thinking it might change that feeling, but it only increased it. I remember saying to my husband that I have had a hospital birth before- I could do it again. I sought advice on ob's that were natural minded and talked to my midwife about my feelings. Even though we were both sad, we both agreed that I needed to what was best for me. I felt a huge relief and a sense of calm once I decided where baby was going to be born.
What did you do to prepare for your birth?
Chasing after two little girls doesn't give you a lot of time to prepare for bringing another little human into the mix! We also had a lot of life changes happening, closing a business, moving and feeling sick almost everyday left me to rely on the fact I've done this two times before and I can do it again. I also listened to hypnobabies affirmations every night. It was something I did with my previous pregnancies and it was always a calming and reassuring thing for me to do.
Tell us what happened! Please feel free to write as much or as little as you'd like about your birth story.
Silly me took into account of how smooth my labors went with my previous births, I thought that this little guy would follow suit... I had told family, friends, my doula- when contractions start is when my labor starts and it's pretty by the book. That is what happened before, so why would this one be any different!!? My sweet in-laws flew out on my due date and then flew out a week later without meeting their grandson. I honestly couldn't believe it. I had been having a lot of prodromal labor that wouldn't produce a baby! Every morning when I woke up pregnant I thought I would be pregnant forever! Multiple trips to the chiropractor, a trip to labor and delivery because of a scared ultrasound tech and a 90 minute massage later,Friday June 12th was like any other day. We said goodbye to Mema and Papa and just relaxed the rest of the day. I was having contractions but nothing that was concerning to me since I'd been having them for a week long. We had dinner out and I do remember some strong contractions through dinner but we still went about our night. I went to bed thinking I'd still be pregnant tomorrow. I woke up around midnight with contractions that were stronger than any I have had and decided to get up. I made it to the couch and texted my doula. We texted back and forth for about 15 minutes and I was starting to get vocal through my contractions. We decided she should start over and I would wake my hubby. By the time I got back to the bedroom I decided we needed to just go to the hospital. I called my mom to come over and told my husband to text the doula and birth photographer to go straight to the hospital. We arrived at the hospital at 2:30am and I was already at a 7 so they wheeled me straight to the delivery room. I made it to the edge of the bed while they attempted to get a heplock in me, but couldn't locate a vein. My doula encouraged me to get in a better position, so I was kneeling over the back of the bed. This position was amazing because it felt the best and also because I couldn't see anything. I felt very pushy and the next thing I know my water broke and it popped just like a water balloon all over the bed! That was definitely a first! My contractions were intense and I was ready to birth this baby. I felt so much pressure and I feel like I was screaming and the next thing I know at 3:20am my 9.4lb baby boy was born! I flipped over and felt such relief that my boy was finally in my arms.
What surprised you most about your birth?
The thing that surprised me the most is how much he weighed! Both girls were very average- the 7 pound mark, so for him to be over 9 pounds was shocking!
What are you glad that you did during your birth?
Everything was in my time. I was able to labor and birth in the position I wanted and my voice was heard.
What would you do differently?
Honestly I wouldn't do anything different except have my headband! My hair was in my eyes driving me crazy!
What's the best advice you received about birth?
For my third and last birth the best advice I received was that every baby writes their own story. And they most certainly do.